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TRUST or NO-TRUST

TRUST is always seen as an integral part of any relationship. A relationship, whatever it may be, gets maturity with the factor of trust getting built into that. Sometimes trust is seen as a paranoid factor, why should I show that I trust someone? Or for that matter, if I trust someone, my exhibited behaviour will automatically demonstrate that, I need not consciously show that I trust. These are some confusions which creep a thinking mind.

Does trusting someone also indicates that we are a bit obsessed or possessive about the person? Or in other words, does possessiveness sometime questions the trust factor? So what is more desirable, trusting someone blindly or feeling a bit possessive about that person? Sometimes it feels like a balancing act, a perfect balance between the exhibited trust and little bit of possessiveness may usher in sweetness in any relationship.

The key factor, is always an open communication. Whenever there is a question with the trust factor, let us question – first let us question ourselves, whether am I right in my thinking? And then let us question the person whom we trust. The other person should be matured enough to understand that his/her presence is valued and that’s why someone is trying to clear his/her thoughts by discussion. Also empathy is a critical factor in any trusting relationship. Whenever we don’t find a justifying answer to our explicit or implicit questions, let us empathize with the other person. He/she may be under tremendous whirlwind of life and may not be ready to face my questions. Thus empathy plays a deciding role in building a bond of trust.

Any relationship, never remains steady throughout. It goes through a maturity curve. Highs and lows are part of that maturity curve and reinforces our trust in the other person. It’s a marvelous journey, had it been a straight line, the relationship would have been a monotony. And believe me, all highs and lows are nothing but our manifestation of trust or lack of trust. So, to keep the relationship going, ‘trust’ or ‘lack of trust’ are sweet mandatory phenomena, which, if not there, is an indication of a dying relationship !!

Every human being is secretive, and we love to keep some secrets close to our hearts and nurture them to get the essence of life. But, any secret, which we feel, is a hindrance for a trusting relationship, must be shared. Even if the sharing at times seems to be hurting at first, it’s necessary to contain the trust.

The fact of the matter is, whether manifested or not, whether explicit or not, trust in relationship is inherent….no trust, no relationship. And for that matter, any relationship is sweet. Sometimes, it looks like to be a fruit of neem, bitter outside, but the very nectar is ‘honey-sweet’ !!


Trust sweetheart and taste the honey in relationship !!

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