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All Izz Well

I was going through Wikipedia and the definition of Fear mentioned there is “a distressing negative sensation induced by a perceived threat”. The key words in this definition are very apt, “distressing”, “negative”, “induced” and “perceived”. Wiki also says that the most common fears include fears of rejection, intimacy, death and people.

I was amazed to see that the list of common fears is mostly of human relations. I am afraid of rejection of someone whom I want to be intimate to, I am afraid of my interactions with people and overall, like many others, I am fearful of my death!! So, all fears are out of our perception of a situation? If I perceive that I am Shah Rukh Khan, let the world laugh at me, but for me, I am SRK. So, my perception is my reality and then my fear is also genuine. If the cause of such perceptions are analyzed, it may be deep rooted in my experience from childhood; may be I have been rejected from relations or I have seen people being rejected or I have seen someone dying in pain. All these experiences have generated the perceptions that rejection hurts, intimacy gives pain and painful death is undesirable. And thus the sense of fear is generated in me. It’s difficult to forget such experiences and also difficult to get rid of such perceptions.

I was going through the life of Oprah Winrey, one of the most iconic faces on television as well as one of the richest and most successful women in the world. She was deprived of a nice upbringing in her childhood and had numerous career setbacks. She was fired from her job as a television reporter and someone rejected her saying she was “unfit for TV”. Had Oprah carried her life with this perception of being rejected, she would have been any other average human being. There are many such famous instances, like Bill Gates, Thomas Edison and Walt Disney, where all of them have been rejected in life in some point or other. May be, they have perceived those rejections as challenges and sailed forward in their lives!!!

Can I win over my fear then? I know, it’s easier said than done. Can I forget that some point of time I was rejected in a job interview, can I forget that I was rejected by someone as a person, can I forget that I was rejected because someone did not like my so called caring nature, can I forget that my mails to someone were rejected and appeared to be very nagging? May be I can’t. But at the same time, may be, I can forget that those incidences of life are not show stoppers. I can repeatedly keep on thinking that those are the bitter experiences of life which can form the base of all other sweeter phases. Someone rejected me and hence I met my wife, the most dependable person in my life. Someone rejected me in an interview and hence I got the chance of working for another beautiful organization. Someone rejected me because I appeared to be nagging and hence I got my daughters who consider me to be the most caring papa.

This is life…we get many and lose a few. Let those losses not shape our perception. We will take lessons from those losses and will say to ourselves, “All izz well”.

Let this be our small fearless steps in facing the great world.

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  1. T's MomMarch 18, 2012 at 11:11 PM

    Do post articles regularly. Nice Blog. My personal suggestion would be changing the background :)

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  2. Sarang DateMarch 18, 2012 at 11:15 PM

    Fear of failure is the biggest fear human race has always had.... nicely articulated..keep writing !!

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